I started 30 days of kink possibly a year ago, but I think I’m going to redo it since 1) My answers have probably changed and evolved from this time last year and 2) I forgot which day I was on. So here we go. I've condensed Days 1 and 2 into one blog since I wrote the on my tumblr as two separate ones and I am lazy and a bunch of other adjectives.
DAY 1: Dom, sub, switch? What parts of BDSM interest you? Give us an interesting in-depth definition of what that means to you. Basically define your kinky self for us.
I don’t identify with any set role in these categories. I feel like labeling myself any of these things automatically allows people to make basic assumptions about me that just aren’t true. I am submissive to ONE person, that doesn’t make me submissive. I top people I enjoy playing with, but do not desire to have a relationship outside of play, so that doesn’t make me a Dom. I also don’t have the desire or ability to switch between being a Top or bottom with others, so I really don’t consider myself a switch. So, for now, I am just me.
My interests in BDSM lie heavily on bondage, especially rope bondage. I enjoy being tied and tying in a Japanese-inspired aesthetic. I wouldn’t say I’m an amazing rope top or bottom, but I’d like to think of myself as pretty damn good. It’s something that I’ve worked hard at with my partners.
A lot of my other interests stem from the idea of suffering, whether it’s causing suffering in others or if I’m the one suffering. I tend to say I don’t like pain, giving or receiving. What I really mean to say is I enjoy making someone suffer (or I enjoy suffering) and it doesn’t necessarily have to come from impact play. Mind fucks, predicament and the like do it for me just as single tails and needles.
I also really enjoy the educational aspect of BDSM. I like teaching safety. People sometimes forget that all this stuff is really dangerous and, if done incorrectly, can cause a lot of damage, even death. One of our personal favorite sayings is, “I want to hurt you, not harm you.” Plus, you get to learn some really awesome things in kink educational classes. Nothing is more priceless than showing your Narwhal friends an event class list and they go, “Punching in the face? Holy fuck!”
Day Two List your kinks
I would say my kinks mostly revolve around suffering and breakdown. It’s not the crying or screaming that turns me on- it’s the point past that, the sobbing brokenness, the inability to even fight back or show signs of distress. It’s that moment when you realize that this is going to happen whether you like it or not, so you might as well let it happen…that’s what I love the most. All with consent, of course.
In order to achieve that, I do really love bondage. All kinds of bondage, but I have a particular fondness for rope because of the intimacy that it requires. It’s easy to slap a pair of cuffs on someone; it’s a bit harder to tie them up. and it’s a process that can take as long or be as quick as you want it to be.
I am a fan of sensual bondage, the slow, sweet touches, kisses, the closeness, but it usually requires me to be with someone for which I have feelings.
I do have a fondness for needles and needleplay. I like seeing my own blood after the fact. I actually hate seeing needles being put into my skin, go figure. The endorphin rush, for me, is my form of cheating sobriety. Plus, I can have some really intimate experiences with needles with Daddy. Energy pulls are pretty amazeballs. I find absolutely nothing sexual or sensual about needles or needle play, I just think it’s a lot of damn fun.
I am not a huge huge fan of impact, but I really do love single-tails and bastinado via caning. These are probably the hottest forms of impact to me. Stingy sensations are preferably to thuddy sensations when I bottom/play.
I absolutely love biting, hair pulling, nipple torture and other forms of intimate pain. I usually don’t let anyone, but Daddy do that to me because…well, I ain’t having sex with anyone else at the moment.
Oh, and I guess, obviously, I am into a Daddy-girl kind of relationships. I call him Daddy because…well, it’s dirty. Plus, I enjoy the caring undertones calling him ‘Daddy’ has rather than ‘Sir’ or ‘Master’. That’s just me, though. When I top, I do not use honorifics, that’s just my style.
I think that may sum up my current kinks pretty well. Woot.